Saturday, September 14, 2013

When people feel all grown up

On day you wake up and you feel as if everyone around you is behaving a little different from usual  You try to talk to them. You feel maybe its just a bad day... But this just goes on... Its either the people around you or yourself... You just cant makeup your mind... and then you suddenly realize that your friend and colleagues have suddenly realized that they have grown up and they need to do something with their lives. You try to straighten things up... maybe try and talk them out of it, while all you do from the bottom of your heart is you pray for them not to change...

You ask your self, maybe, that why do people need to change... and why do they... After all its you and them and everyone else, the same as they were a few days/years back, not so long ago... All you really want is for them to understand you and keep being the same as they always were... But the sad truth of life is not only that everyone grows up..but they also move on... Its none of your fault.. At times you are left feeling all alone... and ten eventually one of two things might happen (1) Either you find new and like minded people and continue to enjoy life or (2) You change yourself to adapt.... no matter what the situation might be you could never get rid of the moments and memories (no matter how much time you spent) and several years down the line as you grow old, you start to remember your long lost friends and dear ones , who could had been there right besides you. You just try to figure out the mistakes you did or perhaps what others did and start being judgmental... All this just for the feeling of being grown up...

Why is it that growing up means you have to let go off your friends and dear ones, or that you cant make any new friends without the existing ones being jealous or possessiveness about it. Why cant everyone in your life be just right where you want them to be... the truth is that like you would want your feelings to be understood so would they ... And believe me, not everyone thinks alike, nor might everybody be as accepting... But you just try to figure out your fault in all of this... Just just honestly try and make it up to everyone and just keep failing... A few years later even the closest of friends  who once knew your feelings by the look on your face, would be mad at you for just missing a call for congratulating them for their promotion...

You still honestly and with a pure heart try and make new friends... but as they say... "there is a age beyond which you don't make friends  you just have colleagues"... But why not so... I have seen a 70 year old being friends with a 5 year old boy... and its absolutely cool.. Why is it that after a certain age friendship comes with so many conditions: what others might say... what will my boyfriend/girlfriend think... how will it affecting my impression on boss/colleagues...etc..

What wrong has a person done who honestly would like to be someone's friend... and in doing so pour his heart out... while others are just so judgmental of the fact that they so much influence others thinking that they might just be skeptical of the other persons honest friendship...I wish people could really give a thought to what they mean of  "Friendship"... what they mean when say that you need to grow up... what is the cost for growing up...